Talk That Talk

Okay  so lets talk about one of the biggest stumbling blocks  slash stepping stones in relationships. Communication.  People come to me and talk about how  the person in their life does not talk to them anymore and as a result their relationship has broken down.   Which is a major problem.

Anything that causes a relationship to crumble will  cause it to inevitable break down completely.


What were you thinking when you first met your girlfriend?  Did you think she was hot? Did you wonder what part of town she was coming from?  You obviously  came to a point where you had to talk to her and let her know what was on your mind.  Because  if you never said a word to her she probably would never have become your girlfriend in the first place.

You need to continue to talk to her if you want to have a better relationship.

Whatever your initial thoughts on her were you had to step over that line and you have to do that again. If she hurts you talk to her and let her know that you two have a problem.  If she does something good for you you still have to let her know.   Whenever you keep that line of  communication open you increase the odds of a stronger bond.  

One young woman I dated had a funny way of getting her point across. She'd  pick and chose her conversations with me.  I would come at her with any topic but she'd either respond with one word answers. When she felt like it she'd come at me with a barrage of issues and such that sometimes hit me like a brick. 

My ex would build up things that I didn't even know mattered to her.  IF she had been more forward maybe the relationship would have blossomed into something  more. But you have to build bridges  and not walls.