Dream girls vs. Reality

One of the best things in life is finding that perfect match. The right temperature in the shower or a cup of coffee. The window seat. When you are looking for that special someone you're looking for  a perfect glove to fit that hand of yours. I thought I found my dream girl,  I needed to wake up, nobody is perfect as I soon found out.
 She was  a very beautiful woman,you'd be a fool to turn her down for dinner.  Almost always sporting a pair of hipster glasses.  Very much  a black Tina Fey look.  I was sold.  I love Tina Fey.
We had the same close knit circle of friends so running into her was inevitable.  So when  I did get around to meeting this girl, lets call her Shelly,  I was head over heals.
It was late summer  and I was attending a friend's  party. It was mid day and warm so mostly everyone was sticking inside.  I and my buddy  decided to brave the heat  on the deck.  We were out there just talking crap when suddenly Shelly  came out of the house.  Some of the sodas were out on the deck  and she had a hankering for some of it.
My buddy looks at me and gives me that look to go for the jugular.  Seeing where she was headed and not wanting to miss an opportunity  I intercepted the bottle  and offered to pour some for her.  As soon as I say this she recoils, "No I have it, thanks."
 I'm sure she's thinking, "I'm an independent modern woman   I don't need help pouring cotton pickin soda. Back off!"
    I  decide to let her be and go back to my seat, she didn't want my help and I wasn't about to force it.  So I head back to my seat. As soon as I  take my seat she calls me back. "You know what I  actually could use a little help." 
When you're head over heals for someone who looks,talks and carries herself  as the woman of your dreams you tend to not notice red flags.  I poured her the soda and our friendship seemed to take off from there.  Or so I thought.  I  found myself doing things to gain her respect for me.  I found myself losing less respect for myself so  that I could be in her good graces.  I mistakenly thought  this was  you know actually leading somewhere?  After months of investing in our friendship I had decided it was time to stop the games and get serious. Of course  she wouldn't have it.   After all that time this perfect woman was lacking that one element that would make her perfect.  Love for me.
 Oh sure we were friends I guess.  But how would you define that friendship?  Do you want to be on the friendship cruise if it's sinking?  When that woman of your dreams walks  into your life set her against reality.  See  how much she cares for you in the long run and if you are doing stuff for her and not getting much out of it.